‘When you keep an elder in her home, she receives more personalized care than might otherwise be the case. Her world can be adapted to meet her needs in ways that might not be possible within an institutionalized setting. You set the budget, so you can economize whenever possible. And because it offers these obvious advantages residential care has become a national trend. Yet, people who attempt making residential care work for their loved one often find themselves mired in more challenges – social, medical, financial – than they had ever anticipated. And there is little margin for error, as any missteps they make could have disastrous consequences for both them and their elder. They must remain constantly on the alert.’
After Harriet Tramer’s mother, who was in her 90s, fell and broke her leg, it was decided that after nursing home therapy, she was to come home. This is when Harriet Tramer found out what was really involved with home care of an elder.
Sooner or later, most of us will be faced with the decision of placing our parents, spouse and sometimes even our children in a facility or care for them at home. In Rounding the Circle of Love, Tramer helps to make us aware of the problems we’ll most likely face, how to handle them and hopefully prevent a few now and then. Through her discussion of medical situations you may be faced with, such as suctioning a tracheotomy or changing a diaper, helps prepare you for the possible and sometimes probable. She discusses money, real estate owned by the elder, taxes, possible Medicaid help, as well as how to apply for financial help. Tramer discusses how to choose a Home Health Care Agency if you decide one is needed. But one thing that she really stresses is… ‘are you really ready, willing and capable of performing this full time job?’
To help you as a caregiver, Harriet Tramer talks about your own health and welfare. What facilities are available to help you for support and how to find an Adult Day Care Center that will allow you to take a break now and then.
There are so many pros and cons to consider when trying to decide to become a caregiver for your loved one. In Rounding the Circle of Love, Harriet Tramer helps to make that decision a little easier by including questionnaires that will help make you aware of what you may be in store for. She also includes questionnaires that will help you find the correct and safest facilities when needed. Since we will all be faced with this at some time in life, this is a book that I feel needs to be placed in every doctor’s office and given out to all caregivers of the aging. It really opened my eyes as to what my own children may end up being faced with as I myself age.
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